so last night was a fairly typical evening in the life of my boyfriend and i; he came over here bearing food, we hung out, we tested a sex toy and we shagged.
incidentally i cannot stress enough how much this sex blog has done to keep my sex life healthy and active. even if i don’t FEEL like shagging there’s toys to test and once i’m aroused there’s basically no stopping me so i end up fucking far more than i ‘feel’ like and my boyfriend, my relationship and i are the better for it.
not to mention that sex toys are just plain fun.
further incidentally, i read recently that a great date for long-term couples is sex toy shopping. S’TRUTH!
but i digress, early in the evening during the hang-out phase i started cleaning up my space and my pilates equipment. if i leave this while i go to bed my cats turn it into a playground and i can’t quite relax. something about knowing there’s work in the morning makes it hard to chill out. i happened to still be dressed in workout gear at the time.
to be clear my workout gear is in fact high end spandex or the equivalent dance or yoga wear; it is NOT a track suit.
so there i am bending over and reaching up and bending over and all sorts of things while wearing form fitting clothing and my boyfriend is watching me. he informs me that i look totally hot bending over my equipment and petting the cat who is sitting on said gear.
i think nothing of this, he thinks i’m hot generally after all so i’m flattered but not surprised.
so the evening continues and we test a mediocre toy (too bad, it had great promise) and play in a rather traditional fashion and then we start to fuck. we fuck for a while and he comes a few times and i can sort of tell he’s nearly done and then he does it. he says to me “i’m fantasizing about you bending over earlier this evening” and i’m pretty much flabbergasted.
“you’re fantasizing about me dressed while you’re fucking me naked???” i goggle at him. yup, uh-huh he is.
i so do not get this.
no, really i’m not being difficult, i just don’t get it. on the rare occasions when i fantasize during sex play [usually when oral stimulation is getting a little stale but i'm still not quite coming and i want to] it’s to add another partner in my mouth or bum or to imagine the fucking i’m about to get or to tie imaginary ropes around my wrists or to add imaginary voyeurs and the like.
heck, sometimes i fantasize about getting my butt plug out of the drawer or maybe fucking my boyfriend with a strap-on and although both of those toys are ‘just over there’ i’m generally too blissed out to move.
i do NOT fantasize about my dressed boyfriend while sexing up my naked one.
you see what i’m saying here?
you’re naked and inside me right? why on earth does my ass in spandex add to the pleasure? isn’t my ass in spandex supposed to make you want me naked rather than my naked ass supposed to make you want it dressed?
it’s more interesting still that he’s saying this whilst fucking AND while holding my ass super tight so he can drive as deeply inside me as it’s possible for him to go. possibly as deep as i get since every now and then i feel like he hits my ends.
anyway this has me super curious, so whether you’re female or male or transgendered or gay or hetero or not at all sure can you comment? tell me what you fantasize about when you’re fucking or masturbating or what your partner admits to fantastizing about?
pretty please??
thanks!
