so last night was a fairly typical evening in the life of my boyfriend and i; he came over here bearing food, we hung out, we tested a sex toy and we shagged.
incidentally i cannot stress enough how much this sex blog has done to keep my sex life healthy and active. even if i don’t FEEL like shagging there’s toys to test and once i’m aroused there’s basically no stopping me so i end up fucking far more than i ‘feel’ like and my boyfriend, my relationship and i are the better for it.
not to mention that sex toys are just plain fun.
further incidentally, i read recently that a great date for long-term couples is sex toy shopping. S’TRUTH!
but i digress, early in the evening during the hang-out phase i started cleaning up my space and my pilates equipment. if i leave this while i go to bed my cats turn it into a playground and i can’t quite relax. something about knowing there’s work in the morning makes it hard to chill out. i happened to still be dressed in workout gear at the time.
to be clear my workout gear is in fact high end spandex or the equivalent dance or yoga wear; it is NOT a track suit.
so there i am bending over and reaching up and bending over and all sorts of things while wearing form fitting clothing and my boyfriend is watching me. he informs me that i look totally hot bending over my equipment and petting the cat who is sitting on said gear.
i think nothing of this, he thinks i’m hot generally after all so i’m flattered but not surprised.
so the evening continues and we test a mediocre toy (too bad, it had great promise) and play in a rather traditional fashion and then we start to fuck. we fuck for a while and he comes a few times and i can sort of tell he’s nearly done and then he does it. he says to me “i’m fantasizing about you bending over earlier this evening” and i’m pretty much flabbergasted.
“you’re fantasizing about me dressed while you’re fucking me naked???” i goggle at him. yup, uh-huh he is.
i so do not get this.
no, really i’m not being difficult, i just don’t get it. on the rare occasions when i fantasize during sex play [usually when oral stimulation is getting a little stale but i'm still not quite coming and i want to] it’s to add another partner in my mouth or bum or to imagine the fucking i’m about to get or to tie imaginary ropes around my wrists or to add imaginary voyeurs and the like.
heck, sometimes i fantasize about getting my butt plug out of the drawer or maybe fucking my boyfriend with a strap-on and although both of those toys are ‘just over there’ i’m generally too blissed out to move.
i do NOT fantasize about my dressed boyfriend while sexing up my naked one.
you see what i’m saying here?
you’re naked and inside me right? why on earth does my ass in spandex add to the pleasure? isn’t my ass in spandex supposed to make you want me naked rather than my naked ass supposed to make you want it dressed?
it’s more interesting still that he’s saying this whilst fucking AND while holding my ass super tight so he can drive as deeply inside me as it’s possible for him to go. possibly as deep as i get since every now and then i feel like he hits my ends.
anyway this has me super curious, so whether you’re female or male or transgendered or gay or hetero or not at all sure can you comment? tell me what you fantasize about when you’re fucking or masturbating or what your partner admits to fantastizing about?
pretty please??
thanks!
June 12, 2008 at 10:05 pm
The sight of a partially clothed woman can be very arousing! It’s the unknown that does it for me (What does she look like in the nude?). Even a fully clothed woman with the right clothes in a sexy position…mmmmmm…. The fantasy usually starts with her clothed. And then slowly improves as the clothes come off!
June 13, 2008 at 12:22 am
unbroken: and i totally and completely get that BUT do you imagine the woman you are fucking is dressed while you are fucking her?
that’s the bit i don’t get you see?
June 13, 2008 at 7:21 am
The fucking or sucking is the action, the mental image is whatever it is that my erotic mind has recently focused on. I might imagine my partner slowly stripping for me, or flirting, bending over with certain blouses on knowing I am watching her. So yes, I totally get it. On the one hand, I would be glorifying in feeling myself sliding into her, opening her, on the other hand, my mind might wander to what excited me even more about wanting to get inside her.
June 13, 2008 at 12:52 pm
Well, he got turned on by what you were wearing and what you were doing while wearing said clothes…so mid-fuck his mind is going to flash back to that “scene”.
But really silly girl you should be contemplating how lucky you are to have a man who gets turned on by you being sweaty and messy. He’s easy!
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June 13, 2008 at 1:51 pm
I see what you’re asking. I have to say, when we actually get down to fucking, all my attention is on her naked body in front of me. But there are times when we are going at it for quite a while (she’s multi-orgasmic) and my mind will wander back to a look or an outfit that particularly turns me on. That pushes me over the edge after having to hold back for a while. But if it’s just a quickie, then yes, my attention is on the wonderous sight in front of me! Make sense?
June 13, 2008 at 7:26 pm
edward: i think that’s the key for me… the idea of recently focused on. i don’t do that you see… i go wandering into the erotic hills and dales of my brain and see what comes out… but then apparently women are less visually stimulated than men. for me it’s more about sensation than the visual.
i love people’s brains, they’re all so different!
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AS: lol that he is. that said, apparently most men prefer us rumpled to all hotted up. s’truth, i read it someplace even :)
he does prefer the low maintenance type that’s for certain.
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Unbroken: see that’s much more what i’m like… the focus on the current activities rather than past fun. ahh multiple orgasms are *fun* so she and thee are lucky to be able to play with that.
actually it does, thank thee :)
June 23, 2008 at 7:13 pm
Sometimes you see something, the curve of her back as she is on her knees in front of you or the way lycra clings to her butt. It’s an image or short piece of video that just burns itself into your brain. For some reason it just totally turns you on.
And you just replay it over and over again, you don’t have to fantasize about her doing anything, you don’t need to. The image alone is enough.
Of course one can fantasize a bit more and build on the image, but I find that generally comes a bit later.
May I suggest that next time he comes over that you let him catch you in your gym gear doing your workout, maybe let him watch for a couple of minutes, then tell him something like “working out makes you incredibly horny” etc.
Then just jump him, don’t have a shower or get changed.
Yes it’s true we love you rumpled up. Especially after a big shag session. The messed up hair, the sleep eyes, the contented smile. Or after a workout when you are all hot and sweaty and in your hot lycra.