Comments on: not so limbo

By: Rogue

Rogue — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 16:57:29 +0000

You sound healthy. It sounds like you’re approaching this with eye-open, and while there’s still a sting (for for you both), it sounds like you’re embarking on a new emotional space for you. If your unconscious is confused because it’s expecting a crisis, it might be a good time to breathe deeply and nurture that unconscious into appreciating What Could Be Good About This. You’ll probably enjoy the results. You might even feel a little liberation.

You’re being brave. That’s fantastic.

By: badinfluencegirl

badinfluencegirl — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 05:02:01 +0000

AS: i always wait before i have sex with the ones i really like. helps me keep my head a little. not sure it’s the right thing but whatever.

i feel okay, weirded out that i have a date but okay.
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Butterfly: yes you are absolutely right.

that doesn’t make it any less strange to form new pathways in my head though.
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grifters: thank you

i think that they will be actually, civilized is turning out much nicer than my previous ones…

By: badinfluencegirl

badinfluencegirl — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 05:00:00 +0000

E: thank you. interestingly enough, i have a date tomorrow.
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gillette: and a lovely post it was by the way.

if it’s any consolation? i think that’s fair as well.
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Annie: it shows no sign of changing. it helps that our lives are relatively unconnected still.

By: Grifters

Grifters — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 13:05:45 +0000

Breaking up sucks, but doing it with a modicum of decency makes for cleaner wounds.

I feel for you and am sure you will land on your feet just fine.

May your scars be small and your nights quick.

By: The Butterfly Temptress

The Butterfly Temptress — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 18:56:42 +0000

I’m sorry to hear about you and the Mr. Take a deep breath and remember that there is no one way to do a break-up. Be kind to yourself, focus on your wonderful ways, and go from there.
*hugs*

By: A. Secret

A. Secret — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 17:49:24 +0000

Ms. B.I.G., I remember when you two first met, how hesitant you were. So it makes sense to me that you would be hesitant about the break-up. Little steps my friend. Give YOURSELF a break. XX

By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 16:48:38 +0000

Parting hurts. I am glad that yours was civilized. I hope it stays that way…

By: gillette

gillette — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:12:03 +0000

Ah….big…I admire that you both are telling the truth to yourselves. I’m not sure what love is any more. Your story touched me, even though I know a fraction of it. I’m writing a post on love and part of what influenced me was this post of yours.

I understand what you’re saying about the money. Our issues about it began when the kids made the decision to live with me full time and I asked him for child support. I thought that fair…he didn’t.

By: E

Fri, 05 Sep 2008 11:07:34 +0000

I”m afraid I don’t have many words of wisdom. I think you are awesome. There is no doubt in my mind that you will be able to be fucked as much as you choose to be, as time passes, and that you will find one (or more) who will admire you, celebrate life with you, laugh and cry with you, and be a companion.
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By: badinfluencegirl

badinfluencegirl — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:53:04 +0000

gillette: i’m curious what you’re admiring.

i think it does. i felt like we were on the road to that bitter couple that never fucks and sleeps in seperate rooms.

we don’t have kids or any money issues, we were only together for a year. he could be a millionaire tomorrow and the most i would expect was that he might pick up the cheque when we went for dinner on occasion.

yeah, i would too. i’m curious how this will unravel in the end as i feel myself trying to find reasons to be mad.
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unbroken: absolutely they do. you get to focus on how mad you are and you never have to deal with the huge hollow feeling in the pit of your lungs.

yeah, i think that’s exactly what it is. sometimes i wonder if we didn’t rational each other to death you know? we were together for close to a year.

it’s funny, i don’t really feel like i need to recover. it was wonderful to date him and i’m sad we’re done but i don’t see that i need to go into hibernation either.

i’m not hunting but i’m not hiding in the basement either ;>

thanks! *hugs*