notes

so it turns out that *i* am on vacation and i don’t think i will be back until next year.  don’t worry, i don’t mean march  :)

for xmas comments this post wants to know the stories YOU want in the new year.

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this does however bear repeating:

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may you all have a fantastic and rejuvenating holiday season… i’m off to rejuvenate right now!

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review: sliquid sassy anal lube

hi all, it’s battery here again. i liked doing that last review so much that i begged for another one (oh, stop, you naughty people!).

this time, the lube i tried is Sassy Intimate Gel [aka SLiquid Sassy Anal Lube], from Babeland. designed specifically for anal play, it is water based and actually smells quite pleasant (+0.5 for that!). the ingredients list is also only four items long, a welcome relief from lists so long you’ll lose your erection at the slightest glance. it is also glycerine- and paraben- free, for those of you who are sensitive to these products.

as i made quite clear last time, i much prefer using silicone-based lubes, but i’d have to say, this is one of the better water-based ones that i’ve tried (and i’ve tried a lot of them).

let’s start with the bottle, shall we? similar to the name, the bottle is clear with a silly pink and light blue label. at first, i was a little turned off by it – i’m not seven anymore, and have a fondness for cutting-edge design. still, it is a little hokey and, on the bottom of the label, it calls itself “booty formula,” which is cute.  frustrating note: there are 17 “female” signs on the bottle, along with a cartoon image of a woman’s face, and no “male” signs. maybe i’m being picky, but babeland should know that loads of men like things in their bums, regardless of sexuality. all i’m sayin’ is that a little recognition of that would be nice. [note from big: babeland doesn't make this lube they only carry it.  that said to my mind the manufacturer should definitely heed this kind of complaint.]

on to the product. the reason that i hate water-based lubes is that they always get sticky several minutes into use, particularly if you take a bit of a break (i’m talking, like, 45 seconds), and this one is no different. what is different, though, is that, by adding either a touch more lube or (even better) a bit of saliva, the slickness kicks in again. being on the kinky side, the idea of someone fucking me, having the friction increase, and then having him spit on my ass is, well… you can only imagine.

the same holds true when i used it on my own – i like its consistency and the fact that i can make it super-slick (wait, didn’t i mention that before? oh yeah – spitting on the lubricated area actually makes it even slipperier than the lube on its own). so, yes it still gets sticky, but it is easily fixable.

overall, i liked it, although not enough to switch back to water-based lubes. i’d recommend it for anyone who does prefer water-based, or may be concerned with staining their sheets (since silicone lube rarely comes out), and for anyone who is quite sensitive to chemicals. [big recommends this lube for toys made of silicone as well, remember, silicone lube eats silicone toys almost always.] my final score would be a 8/10, minus one for the hetero-normative, kitchy label, minus two for it being a water-based lube (the stickiness, particularly around the bum, still isn’t something that i enjoy, even for unstained sheets, hah), and plus half a point for the nice smell.

[big: the -2 for this lube being water based bugs me a little.  it's water based lube, chances are you're choosing it for a reason.  i'm thinking that over a good silicone like wet platinum it's like a 7 but that over any other water based lube on the market it's probably closer to a 9.]

that’s all from me, for now. and in the meantime, happy sexing!

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significance

there was a man once, that i liked.

liked in that despairing way where you like someone who only sees you as a friend but yet loves to spend time with you.  liked in this kind of hopeless and yet not sort of way.  i always knew it wouldn’t work out in the end and i always knew it would be okay that it didn’t but nonetheless i wanted him.

i didn’t want him the way all the girls i knew did, not that he wasn’t cute and funny and totally chaseable but i was never into the big man on any campus.  wasn’t then and still aren’t now.

but then i got to know him away from the campus in question.

it was suggested that i call him to help myself through some emotional trauma and i did and he did.  he took care of me the way only that kind of man can: with weed and beer and lots and lots and lots of laughing with just a little emotional catharsis and pizza when needed.  in fact he did exactly what i needed.

what’s funny is that now?  years later (like eight at least) i don’t actually remember what was upsetting me that long and awesome summer.  i cannot for the life of me think of what had me so bummed i was calling a man i hardly knew for distraction.  funny because it was big whatever it was.

i was newly ex-married and he was newly ex-dogged (as in his beloved dog died) but neither of these are the reasons we hung out and in truth, the reasons don’t matter.

i had this hopeless crush on him and spent all my time with him.  watching him flirt with my sister nearly killed me.  watching my sister flirt with him nearly killed her! *kidding geeze* but through it all there was a deep and abiding something there between us.

cut to now.  in fact cut to a couple of days ago when i get in a chat with his new roommate.  new roommate because he and his long-term live-in lady friend have split up.  there we are chatting away and my friend tells me that this man that i once liked deeply, this man who i will always have a soft spot in my heart for… that this man asked if i was still hot.

which is funny because that is EXACTLY the same question i asked.

and then our mutual friend continues on and comments that this man and i are ‘exes’ really and though i protested that we never made physical contact he informed me that nonetheless we were considered exes in his mind.

that in fact he’s sure of it.  that he can tell.

and so i ask him why.

and can you guess what he says?  he says that this man talks about me in the EXACT SAME WAY that i talk about him.  with fondness and caring and continued concern for my well being.

he says that’s it’s obvious the two of us care about each other and that though we never officially dated he still thinks of us as exes.  and you know?  i can see it.  i can see it because this man is more significant to me than are several men i actually fucked and even a few that i made love with.

why is this blogworthy?

two reasons, the first is the simplest.  that there is something deeply satisfying about knowing that this man who was significant to me felt the same way about me.  that the feeling WAS mutual.

the second?

oh my FUCK HOW STUPID WERE WE???????????????????????? ???????????????????????????????????????????????????? ????????????????????????????????????????????????????

(that we would have split up regardless is totally irrelevant to the stupidity involved in spending hundreds of hours together and NEVER MAKING A MOVE.

humans are morons.)

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